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   Cheating is a common problem in many relationships. When one partner discovers that the other is cheating, there are heart-wrenching emotional effects. Unfortunately, cheating cannot always simply be defined as having sex with someone outside of your relationship. Cheating comes in a variety of shapes and forms, but they are all equally devastating.We say cheating is a dishonest and unjust act aimed at gaining undue advantage over someone, alot of people think Cheating is basically about having sex with someone else apart from your lover, in this post, you would learn other ways you may be cheating on your Partner maybe ignorantly.

   Physical Cheating
    Simply put, physical cheating is the act of being sexually intimate with someone other than your spouse or significant other. It is one of the most common forms of cheating. Although physical cheating is common among men and women, it seems to affect men and women in different ways. Men view physical cheating as emasculating and a form of physical rejection. Women, on the other hand, may be more likely to see beyond the physical indiscretion if they perceive that emotions were not involved.
Emotional Cheating
    Emotional cheating may include physical intimacy but not necessarily so. Emotional cheating may begin as an innocent friendship. Eventually, an emotional cheater finds himself intimately confiding in the person, sharing thoughts, dreams and an emotional closeness that would normally be reserved for his mate. In some ways, emotional cheating is more crippling to a relationship than physical cheating. With physical cheating, the cheater may still feel emotionally connected to his partner and may only be seeking to fulfill a sexual fantasy. With emotional cheating, however, the cheater's heart may no longer be in the relationship.

Cyber Cheating
     With the popularity of the Internet, cyber cheating is becoming a more common problem among couples. Cyber cheating can come in a variety of forms. Cyber cheating includes Internet pornography, online dating and flirting with other people on social networking sites. Cyber cheating is harder to catch than other forms of cheating. It requires the couple to have access to one another's computer passwords and to pay close attention to conversations each person is having on the Internet.
Text Message Cheating
    Text message cheating, also known as chexting, has come to the forefront due to the high profile affairs of celebrities who were caught cheating via text messaging. According to Fox News, this is a new form of cheating because it supplies the physical proof of infidelity. "Chexting" includes sending sexually explicit messages or pictures and texting to arrange dates. Even simple messages that seem innocent, such as asking how someone is doing, can be considered chexting if the intention of the person sending the text is to hook up with the recipient.
Why do people feel the need to cheat in a relationship? 
   Lovers cheat in relationships for many reasons, but the underlying cause for cheating is almost always a deep desire for change. One partner becomes bored or unsatisfied, and instead of dealing with that in a healthy manner, they look for the answer outside of the relationship.
    Other lovers may use an affair as a way to exit the relationship instead of trying to fix what is making them unhappy in it. They are reckless in the affair, hoping that being caught will allow them to bow out entirely from the unsatisfying relationship.
   For those lovers that are trusting of their partners, cheating may seem unimaginable. They look for excuses to explain away the hints and clues that a cheater always leaves behind. They may fear confrontation and wait until they have absolute proof. A psychic reading can help discover that truth and put a stop to that feeling of doubt.
    You not only will find out the truth about your partner, you may also find out truths about yourself. Lovers who have been cheated on in the past are often hyper vigilant of cheating behaviours, even when none exist. The psychic reading will unearth your trust issues and help you to overcome them. This can be a great way to start while your looking to re-building positive love relationships in the future.
   Jealousy, fear and a lack of trust will destroy a relationship before it starts. If you are having those feelings, consulting with a psychic will get to the root of the issue and let you know if those feelings are valid.
    When someone feels neglected in the relationship because a partner is spending most of their time at work or isn’t giving them their full attention, it can lead to adulterous relationships as a way of that person regaining control.This motivation for cheating could be interpreted as a cry for attention, she said, and is a clear symptom of a lack of communication between couples.
   Unsurprisingly, when a couple isn’t having sex, or there are issues in the bedroom, it can lead to one party seeking sexual satisfaction elsewhere.It's a common motivation for adulterers and is often linked with a number of other triggers, such as feeling neglected, which Holmes explained regularly transpires as a specifically sexual neglect.
    For some, cheating is merely something to spice things up i.e. one partner has tired of the relationship for whatever reason and is looking for a way to reignite some passion into their lives, regardless of any marital ties they may have.
   Relationships are a game to some people, and for them infidelity is little more than a manifestation of a person’s opportunistic tendencies.
    Boredom and curiosity could fall into this category as well. Another common motivator for adultery is when one person in the relationship lacks self-esteem.This could spurn from a number of factors, such as feeling insecure about one’s body, career prospects or even their age.
    Wanting to “feel young again” is something that motivates a lot of cheating partners,who look for younger partners to reignite the youth they feel they’ve lost in their married or committed years.
    For some people, monogamy simply isn’t an option and they will cheat their way through relationships until the cows come home.Though they may try to mend their wandering ways, some men and women just can’t comprehend the idea of being with just one person for the rest of their lives.
   This could be down to a variety of factors, such as attachment issues, commitment phobias or even sex addiction.
Regardless of the reasoning; some people are just destined for a lifetime of philandering.
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Envy is the emotion when you want a possession someone else has. Jealousy is the emotion when you fear you may be replaced in the affection of someone you

love or desire.
How envy and jealousy harm you

“Jealousy is no more than feeling alone against smiling enemies.” 

Envy and jealousy travel together but are different emotions — both are negative and can make you feel miserable and ruin your relationships.
Envy is a two-person relationship: I want what you have.
Jealousy is a three-person triangle: I want the recognition you have from others.
When you wish you have your colleague’s office, that’s envy. When you feel threatened by how much your boss praises one of your colleague’s work, that’s jealousy.
Envy is resentment toward others because of their possessions or success. You idealize when you are envious. You don’t just want what they have; you want their stature too.
Jealousy is when a third person threatens a relationship — you are afraid to lose someone you love in the hands of other.
Jealousy is an anticipatory emotion as Ralph Hupka said.

 “Jealousy causes us to take precautionary measures. Should those fail and the partner has an affair, the new situation arouses anger, depression, and disappointment.”

    Jealousy and envy are natural instincts. However, you can manage how you react.
Both emotions mask other feelings that can become lethal. They hide our insecurity, shame or need to possess — they feed our inner-critic making us feel worthless.
Envy is a reaction to lacking something;
Jealousy is a reaction to the threat of losing something or someone.
A painful ancient symptom
      Both jealousy and envy originate from the primitive fight-or-flight response. When you feel under attack, your brain triggers a warning signal.
Our tribal ancestors lived in fear of arousing the envy of the gods by their pride or good fortune. Hera’s envy for Aphrodite set off the Trojan War in Greek mythology.
Jealousy and envy are still the cause of most current conflicts both in the professional and personal world.
     Envy drives to self-sabotage causing wars and others conflicts. It typically becomes a group phenomenon, and turns to hatred and assaults against others, as Frank J. Ninivaggi explains on Envy Theories .
     We have a false sense of justice — our system emphasizes the equality of all. That’s a curious paradox: the sense that we deserve our fair share of things is at the root of envy.
Life is not fair. There will always be people with more talents, health, possessions or reputation than yourself. Entitlement doesn’t help — thinking that you deserve better makes you focus on the outcome rather than on the effort.
Jealousy originates from the prospect of failure; envy from actual ‘failure.’
To let go of these two negative emotions, we must thoroughly understand where those feelings come from. And stop seeing yourself as a failure.
We create our own poison

“Envy is the religion of the mediocre. It comforts them, it soothes their worries, and finally, it rots their souls, allowing them to justify their meanness and their greed until they believe these to be virtues.” 

    Buddhism teaches us that whatever causes our suffering has its roots in the Three Poisons: Ignorance, Hate, and Greed.
Ignorance is the mother of all poisons. It’s the belief that things are fixed and permanent. When we see that someone is doing better than us, rather than focus on how we can improve, we get stuck on the current status.
    That’s why comparisons are deceiving: there’s always people that are better and worse than us. When we compare, we see things as static. We look outside (what others have) rather than inside (what we can change).
We create our own poison and then drink it.
    Ignorance is clinging to people, objects or emotions. We don’t want things to change. It’s the desire to protect our idealized status. The antidote to ignorance is wisdom — self-awareness can free yourself from poisonous emotions.
Hate arises from ignorance. We believe the world revolves around us. We want to stand out from the universe instead of seeing our connectedness to everything and everyone else. Our society is a system — when we disconnect from it, we start seeing everyone as a competitor or an enemy. Envy and jealousy are just defense mechanisms.
     Greed is not just wanting more — it’s the fantasy that adding more stuff will provide personal gratification. Unfortunately, delusion creates a vicious cycle. Not only it frustrates us; we crave for more. Greed is also based on your need to protect your status — you believe that objects define who you are.
Attachment motivates envy and jealousy. You cling to things or relationships you don’t have — you want to be in control to feel more important.

Bertrand Russell said: “Beggars do not envy millionaires, though of course, they will envy other beggars who are more successful.”

    We direct our envy at those whom we compare ourselves such as your co-workers, friends, relatives or neighbors.
Social Media has not only expanded the ‘beggars’ you compare to; it’s an accelerant that turns envy into a wildfire. A picture-perfect society is doing us no good by encouraging envy and fruitless comparisons.
So, how can you avoid this lethal poison?
The antidote for envy and jealousy
    If ignorance is the mother of all poisons, then wisdom is the universal antidote. Being wise is appreciating the water around you .
Wisdom is listening to other points of view rather than discriminating; to carefully examine facts even if they contradict our beliefs; to be objective rather than biased, and to always be ready to change our beliefs when opposite facts are presented to us.
Wisdom is to directly see and understand for yourself — to keep an open mind rather than being closed-minded.
Certainty can cripple your wisdom, as I wrote here. Embracing a skeptical mindset will help you see life sharply. The path of just believing what you are told is easy. The path towards wisdom requires confidence, courage, adaptability, and patience.
The antidote for greed is generosity ; the one for hate is loving kindness .
Letting go of your possessions and relationships requires wisdom too. You realized you don’t need to possess objects or people to be yourself. They can contribute to your joy, but your happiness does not depend on them.
Non-attachment doesn’t mean not caring — it means recognizing there was never something to cling to in the first place. You stop looking at what others have. You free yourself from owning or being owned.


How to overcome being poisoned

“Don’t envy what people have, emulate what they did to have it.” 

1. Increase your self-awareness
To know yourself is to accept yourself. Self-awareness requires observing and accepting who you are — not who you should or shouldn’t be. Reflect without judging yourself. Learn to be gentle and forgiving with yourself — you’ll stop needing possessions or relationships to feel greater.
Are you jealous? Are you always comparing yourself to others? Deep inside you might feel insecure, frightened, betrayed or threatened. That’s okay. Feedback will help you uncover blind spots so you can conquer them.
To increase your self-awareness, you need to look outside, not just inside as I wrote here. People who score high in self-awareness know themselves well and understand how others see them too.
2. Free yourself from poisonous comparisons
Become your own standard. Learn to appreciate yourself for who you are, not for what you possess or your achievements. Success is personal — happiness is defining success on your own terms.
Social pressure will only make you frustrated — it seeds envy for not having more or make you feel jealous if someone gets more recognition than you do. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Focus on your improvement, not others’. Comparing to other people is a lose-lose situation.
3. Prevent an outbreak
Normal jealousy happens early in a relationship; it can be improved by improving the self-esteem of affected partners. Honesty is critical to stop early symptoms before they produce a jealousy outbreak.
Keeping and maintaining trust is not easy — don’t confuse it with blind faith. Embrace trust as something fragile and imperfect, as I wrote here. Jealousy is about control; trust is about confidence and freedom.
You cannot avoid feeling jealous, but you can prevent it from getting worse and worse.
4. Emulate rather than envy
Looking at others for inspiration is not bad; the problem is trying to be like them. Medium Staff is full of articles on how Elon Musk, Steve Jobs, or Tony Robbins became successful and wealthy. That doesn’t mean you must follow their paths or aim for the same goals.
Reacting with emulation rather than envy is to open up to learn from others.
Each life is unique. Those who compare themselves to famous entrepreneurs end doing nothing. Choose your destination and take the learning route, not the shortcut. Copycats are boring; it’s better to be original as Leon Ho
wrote here.
5. Feel the pain firsthand
    Envy and jealousy are not just lethal for yourself. They can also harm those around you. Sometimes you need to take a little bit of your own poison to realize that.
Let others become your antidote.
    If you are the jealous one, ask your partner to overplay her/ his jealous part for one or two weeks. Feeling the pain firsthand will help you realize the side-effects of your own behaviors.
    If you suffer from envy, interact with people that have dramatically less or more than you have. Live one day with a total budget of two dollars. Volunteer one night to serve at a millionaire’s party. Compare both experiences to see what it says about you when you experience the extremes.
    Envy and jealousy are lethal poisons; it’s up to you to avoid being stung.