MEEWORLD

Relationships these days give a new definition to ‘forever’, it now usually seem to last from few weeks to few months. Today ‘I love you forever’ and the next day ‘get the hell out of my life’. People these days are so quick to walk away from relationships and the people they love just because things got little hard and they fell there is no other way around.

The essence of love is lost somewhere. The people who are deeply in love are not together and those who don’t really love each other are together, its saddening. Love is much more than having new partner once in every few week, that’s not even love. Love is having someone to die for and living for them, with them.

Love never promised to be easy and it shouldn’t be either, the things we earn we cherish them, the things that come easy are taken for granted. We need to work for it, and once with the right person, it is worth it.

If you love someone, you should never give up on them even its get hard, too hard and let me tell you why

Not everyone in the world gets a chance to experience this magical feeling. We know cocaine is one of the most popular drugs out there and it won’t be surprising if I tell cocaine releases the same hormones in body as the love does. You know why it’s so popular now. There are people in the world who want to love and be loved, if you are someone who have experienced love, you know what a shame it is, to have not experienced that mysterious magical feeling ever in your life.

Not everyone in this world gets love in return. There are people who love someone who doesn’t love them back, the one sided love and at some point in life we have gone through it and know why painful it is. And then there are these silly people who are madly in love with each other but aren’t together.

There are people who want to love someone, they have experienced this magical feeling before and want a touch of it back but they cannot. What’s stopping them? The demons inside them, they want to open up but again the demons make her cut ties with any emotional attachments. This is heart breaking because they want to give in but they are a point they cannot because the pain has taken over.

There are people who cannot hold their loved ones any more or tell them how much they loved them because they are gone, too far to ever return. The people who lost their loved one, weather it was their spouse or they were just dating or whatever the case they are under the ground now and won’t ever be back, there won’t be another opportunity to tell them how much they loved them.
The moral of the story is if you love someone truly, deeply, madly, don’t wait. Let them know your feelings maybe they share the same and have been waiting for you to confess. Life is uncertain and letting go something just because of your ego or shy is stupid. Fight for your love, let not hurdle stop you. Don’t let go just because things are hard, don’t break up over a fight, don’t give up because your family dislikes them, everything will fall in place if you keep fighting. Don’t think of parting unless there really is no love left between you two.
Life can be tricky and anything can come tomorrow, even death. While you keep waiting for the right time it may never come or might be just too late. Don’t let yourself miss the chance for what could be one of the best experiences of your life. You may end up regretting lifelong for not making one single move.
Don’t let anything stop you, flow like your feelings does. There are way too many people wishing upon stars to be with their loved ones and other many that wish they weren’t so alone, do yourself a favor and don’t be among them. If things are hard try to fix it, love doesn’t come easy and it’s just a reminder that you need to work on it. The efforts you will put are worth it, always.

     My daughter lived at home while going to college and met a boy at her school. He appeared to be perfect at first. He treated her like a queen and quickly managed to win over our family. He played board games with her younger sisters and often sat and talked with my husband and I when he visited. He spent as much time with us as he did with her and so we thought she had found the perfect family man who was honest, respectful and kind. The boyfriend felt like a son to us and my other children would often remark that he was the favorite child! As the relationship progressed, he was often upset with my daughter. But by this point in the relationship, she was acting crazy and hysterical most of the time and we wondered what was wrong with her. We actually sided with him most of the time and tried to get her to see things his way. We wanted to send her to a counselor to deal with her hysteria, paranoia and depression. She stopped hanging out with her girlfriends. She was afraid to do anything without him and needed his constant approval. We wondered what happened to our confident and outgoing daughter? We were so grateful that he was there to help her and be with her through this difficult time.
     That is until the day he accidentally left his Facebook account open on our family computer. At first I thought it was my account but I quickly realized otherwise as I sifted through the messages. He was cheating on my daughter with at least 3 other girls! It was all there in the messages – the secret meetings, the plans for when she was out of town, everything. I was in shock! And then I did the unthinkable and unforgivable. I met with him and kept everything a secret from my daughter. I told him what I discovered and showed him the printout of the messages so he couldn’t deny it. Of course, he broke down in big tears and talked about how he was so in love with my daughter that it scared him. He was so afraid of how close they were and the attachment they had that he reached out to other girls so it wouldn’t frighten him so much. He also said that he was so happy that I found out because now for the first time he realized what he truly wanted and he didn’t need to be afraid anymore. Can you believe I bought this bullshit?? He told me that he would spend his life making it up to me and my daughter and we both agreed to keep the secret because it would be too painful for my daughter to bear. WTF was I doing? He was so utterly convincing.
    Shortly thereafter, he made plans to transfer schools to another state and he wanted my daughter to follow him out there and he promised he would eventually marry her but that he couldn’t until he finished school. The thought of her moving made me extremely nervous, especially since she didn’t know what I knew. I decided to check his phone when he came over (I learned in passing that his password was the same as my daughters, the day they met). When I had the chance, I looked at his phone and of course he was still talking to the other girls and cheating with them! I couldn’t believe my eyes after everything he said! After he left that night, I sat my daughter down and told her the whole story. The things she told me back that night shocked me to the core. Eventually, I realized that she was a victim of emotional abuse. He was constantly accusing her of cheating on him, would call her a whore, didn’t like her friends and got upset when she hung out with them. He didn’t like what she wore and would suggest outfits for her. He would criticize her relentlessly and say she wasn’t there for him enough and didn’t love him enough and that she was a bad girlfriend. She felt worthless and like she could never please him because she wasn’t good enough. I just couldn’t believe he could treat her this way in private and then spend time at our house like a member of the family.
    I can’t believe I was taken in so much by this individual. I feel awful that I couldn’t see what was happening and the changes in my daughter for the worse for having been with him. Even with all of this, it was still a very hard breakup for my daughter (and in fact, for me too). He kept trying to win her (and our family) back over just like he did the day I confronted him about the facebook messages. There were times we both wanted to see the good in him, to believe that he had changed.
    After googling “Jeckyl and Hyde personality”, I now know that he had the traits of a narcissist/sociopath/psychopath. These folks are truly master manipulators and cheaters! My daughter has been single for awhile now and struggles with letting anyone new into her life and trusting again. He definitely did damage to her confidence and well being but we are all working together as a family to rebuild what has been taken away.

 Just remember these things boys! 

• No matter how charming and handsome you are, your girl will find a way to leave you. 

• No girl is worth sulking over and calling begging for a second chance. 

• If a girl left you then there was no love.

Irony is that even the boys mistake this as love and move forward to accept the girl. Boys think that this may be their last chance if they are hoping to rekindle. When the girls are done with coming back to you and leaving you again, frankly, they finally realize that much of their damn time has been wasted and than you hear that they have married someone finally. The ship has been sailed permanently.
Actually, you should thank them for releasing you from the torture of this dwelling relationship.
As answered by other Quorans, girls leave again when they again realize that you may not be the best provider of the comforts they want. But yes, they do come back after they break up, only to leave again.